Who is supporting you?
We all need support now and then. So who is supporting you?
When you read that, a few things could go through your mind. A few close friends or family members that support you OR peh….who would do that? I don’t have anyone supporting me.
Well, if you fall in the second category, I want to ask you - who have you asked to support you? Who have you reached out to? So often we want people to see us and notice us and that’s a normal, but if you NEED support and aren’t getting it, find healthy ways to get what you need. Don’t wait for it to happen, make it happen.
Your friends, your family care for you. They love you and want to help and support you, sometimes they just don’t know how or what would be the most helpful to you.
So if you need some support here are some ideas:
Ask a friend to take your kids for an hour or two so you can get a self-care break. Don’t run errands, just take a bit to breathe and be.
Go through the drive-thru on the way home from work to give you a little extra time at night to play a game with your family (while you are waiting for the dryer to finish.)
Text a friend and say please pray for me. You can choose to share the details or not. But a praying friend can move mountains on your behalf. Trust me, I’ve seen it happen again and again.
Call up a friend and say can we set up a coffee date, I just need a timeout. (If going out isn’t an option, invite them over and turn on a movie for the kids!)
Find a life- giving church. One with encouraging, authentic people. If you don't know how to find a church, message me, I know people all over!
Check with your employer so many companies are offering free therapy They are realizing mental health and emotional stability are lacking due to obligations and stress. I know our company offers 6 free sessions for each "situation." It's worth asking!
Sometimes when we are hurting we look at the here and now and forget all the people in our past. Those we connected with and cared for deeply. If you are in a place where you don’t have a current group of people you could reach out to, who in the past could you reach out to? They still care for you! They would still help you if you asked. That’s how love is, it doesn’t stop just because communication stops.
Reach out, get what you need in healthy, good ways. Just like this toilet needed help so it wouldn’t fall apart, I don’t want you to fall apart.
Take a step or a leap of faith and reach out to someone.
Note: This is a photo I took today at Abbott Northwestern Hospital while I was waiting for Dan to get out of surgery.
